Expectations placed on relatives living abroad continue to spark conversations among Kenyan families, especially over financial support and opportunities to relocate overseas, amid growing economic pressures at home and changing realities in the diaspora.
In a candid online commentary that has since gained attention, US-based Kenyan nurse and entrepreneur Nafula Sharleen has weighed in on the issue of family expectations placed on relatives living in the United States, challenging the assumption that those abroad are obligated to facilitate migration for others.
Nafula questioned the belief that diaspora relatives are unwilling to “help” others travel abroad, arguing instead that the value of staying in Kenya often plays a critical role in sustaining family operations.
“Acha niwatwange reality ya USA ile hamjui,” she said. “So wewe unajam that your relative in USA hataki kukuhelp ukam Majuu sindio?”
She went on to argue that relatives abroad often rely on those back home to handle essential responsibilities such as property management and family coordination.
“Sasa akikuleta majuu, who will your relative be sending to find where land is sold so they can buy? Who will be in charge of managing construction projects for your relative majuu?” she posed.
Nafula further questioned the social dynamics that often develop when relatives return home or interact with family members from abroad, highlighting expectations around status and recognition.
“Who will be calling them boss, mkuu, kiongozi when they land at JKIA? Who will be doing the kazi ya mkono on the ground for them? Who will be calling to worship them so that they can send them dollars?”
She maintained that many diaspora Kenyans consider practicality when deciding who to bring abroad, suggesting that not everyone is suited for relocation.
“Your USA relative is not bringing you to USA because you are more BENEFICIAL to them when you stay back in Kenya! Read that again! Truth hurts!” she stated.
Responding to potential criticism, Nafula defended her remarks, noting that she has previously sponsored relatives to move abroad.
“Usiseme Nafula nyef nyef, mimi nilileta family yangu yote majuu zamani over 10 years ago na nikaleta mpaka ex wangu Kioko,” she said.
She added that relocation does not guarantee comfort, warning that life abroad comes with its own challenges.
“Wasee leteni relatives huku hata wakikupiga character development at least hawatashinda kukuomba doo uwatumie!”