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A Kenyan mother poured her heart out to Facebook influencer Nitta NJ, sharing the painful reality of her 13-year-long marriage, which she now regrets.
The woman, who wished to remain anonymous, opened up about the struggles of being a full-time housewife and the toll it has taken on her life.
She recalls meeting her husband 14 years ago as a bubbly 21-year-old.
Soon after, she became pregnant and moved in with him.
“I was told I should stop working; he doesn’t like his babies being raised by housegirls,” she wrote.
At the time, she accepted the condition, hoping love and commitment would be enough. To Continue Reading, ...Click Here
Life, however, turned out far from what she expected. Finances were tight, yet she clung to hope. Four years later, during her second pregnancy, her husband had started doing well financially, but she still faced daily struggles.
“I had to shave my hair just to get some money; even eating decently alone was a problem. Meanwhile, he celebrated elsewhere,” she revealed.
Physical, emotional, and financial abuse became a regular part of her life. She recalled going to visit her mother only to discover she needed to buy her new underwear because hers had worn out.
Despite the abuse, she found a way to work online, contributing to the family bills while her husband covered only rent and school fees.
Even after she tried to create some independence, the abuse escalated, and she temporarily moved out. But with no stable income, she returned, only to face the same cycle.
“He would insult me and even my parents. When I stood up for them, he said I had ‘talked back,’” she lamented.
Recently, the situation worsened. Her husband announced he would move out at the end of the month, leaving her responsible for food and rent, while he would only pay school fees.
“I suppose he found someone who brings something on the table,” she wrote.
With three children, mounting debts, and no clear support system, she admits she feels lost and trapped.
“Here I am, 13 years later… my mind is not working right now. Sometimes I feel like screaming, but whom do I call? Where do we go?”
Her message, directed to Nitta NJ, is a warning to other women: staying at home to care for children may seem noble, but it can come with immense emotional and financial costs.
“Ambia wamama to stay at home, but it might end up in tears,” she concluded.