Nairobi County CEC for Citizen Engagement and Customer Service, Geoffrey Mosiria, has sparked debate after posting on X about the challenges facing the “boychild” in modern Kenyan relationships.
Mosiria argued that social and online behaviors among young women are contributing to delays in marriage.
In his post, Mosiria highlighted that some women prioritize attention-seeking activities such as clubbing, attending concerts, posting videos, and seeking social validation over forming meaningful relationships.
He noted that many men, whom he described as “serious” and focused on building their future, are often overlooked because they do not match the immediate lifestyle or social expectations promoted on social media.
“Some girls have turned attention-seeking into a full-time career. Likes must be secured. Videos must be posted. Validation must be received,” Mosiria wrote.
He added that when these women eventually seek marriage, they may find that the men they dismissed have advanced in their careers and life goals.
Mosiria advised women to lower social media-influenced standards and focus on qualities such as patience, teamwork, and vision when selecting partners.
“If you must marry, marry that boychild who is also struggling to make it. Grow together. Suffer together. Build together,” he said, emphasizing the long-term benefits of early commitment with hardworking partners.
The CEC’s remarks come amid wider discussions in Kenya about the “boychild” narrative, which has gained traction in media and public discourse.
He urged women to recognize that men currently perceived as “boring” or “broke” may one day achieve significant success, and that choosing wisely could lead to mutually rewarding partnerships.