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Relationship coach Benjamin Zulu has shared details of a deeply emotional conversation with an anonymous man who opened up about the collapse of his six-year marriage after his wife reportedly left him and entered a same-sex relationship.
The man, in a distress-filled message, said he had been lawfully married in church for six years and had built a family with his wife, with whom they have two children.
According to him, the first signs of trouble began when his wife, while pregnant, started spending time with another woman.
“I tried to talk to her until I involved her parents. They said it was because of pregnancy hormones. After she gave birth, I found conversations showing they were in a relationship,” he wrote.
He further alleged that after briefly reconciling with the help of their best man, his wife’s behaviour changed again.
In January, she reportedly left home with their two-month-old baby, blocked all communication, and later resurfaced living with the same woman in a rented house.
“I looked for her and found her living with the lady. I even confronted the situation and it became a police case after a confrontation,” the man added.
He said the woman’s family later acknowledged that she had joined the LGBTQ community, though she has not personally confirmed it.
He also revealed that she was later moved to a relative’s home, and the two eventually resumed communication.
According to him, she has now requested financial assistance to support the children while she undergoes counselling.
Benjamin Zulu, responding to the man, questioned the circumstances under which the marriage began, especially the age of the woman at the time.
“How did you get legally married to an 18-year-old?” Zulu asked.
The man clarified that she was 19 at the time of the church wedding.
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Zulu, in his response, pointed out concerns about emotional maturity and development, saying the situation reflects deeper issues in early marriages.
“She was obviously an adolescent and this is the time she is becoming herself. Do you need anyone to tell you that?” he responded, adding that brain development continues into the mid-20s.
In a follow-up remark, Zulu stated: “The brain finishes developing at 25. Educate yourself.”