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Betrayal in relationships often comes unannounced, leaving emotional scars that can take years to heal.
When love and trust are intertwined, discovering infidelity can feel like the ground beneath you has crumbled, leaving nothing but heartbreak.
Social media platforms, particularly support-focused groups, have become outlets for those grappling with such betrayals, offering advice, empathy, and sometimes, a roadmap for moving on.
One man recently turned to a Facebook group called Marriage One Stop, sharing a painful revelation about his long-term relationship.
He began by acknowledging the deep love he had nurtured over seven years with his partner, who is also the mother of his child.
“Which is the best and easiest way to call it quits with a lady you have been in love with for over seven years?” he asked, a question born out of hurt and confusion.
His confession revealed that between August and December of the previous year, his partner had been involved in an affair with a younger man—someone who had also been employed at their workplace.
The man shared that he first learned about the betrayal from the “toyboy” himself, who had grown frustrated after realizing he was being used and had not received the financial compensation initially promised.
This disclosure left the man feeling not only deceived by his partner but also blindsided by someone he had trusted implicitly.
“Niligongewa na sio mayai,” he lamented, a Swahili phrase underscoring the shock of being utterly misled.
The consequences of the betrayal extended beyond emotional turmoil. Just this week, his partner reportedly experienced suicidal thoughts, prompting him to take her for professional counselling.
The situation highlighted the complex interplay between love, accountability, and mental health—a delicate balance that often complicates decisions about whether to stay or leave.
Despite the pain, the man’s post concluded with a clear resolve.
“This one really hurts to the core, but it’s about time I also call it quits!” he wrote, signaling a firm decision to prioritize his wellbeing and move away from a relationship tainted by dishonesty.
For many in the Facebook group, his post resonated as a reminder that acknowledging betrayal and seeking support are crucial steps in reclaiming personal peace.
Screenshot of that confession
In situations like these, the journey forward is rarely simple.
Yet, sharing experiences, seeking guidance, and confronting painful truths can help those betrayed regain clarity, set boundaries, and rebuild lives with dignity.
Reactions;
Nick Eric: Has she always had suicidal thoughts or they just started as soon as you learnt of the betrayal? Some people have no limits when it comes to manipulation, she might be one of them.
Ngina: Ndoa ni kuvumiliana na kuombeana. Relax, these are passing clouds, stay and look after your child.
Judy Blessed: Sa anataka kujiua juu unataka kumwacha n she was very comfortable cheating on u???? Kua serious hata wewe,,, a woman cheating on u it means u r nothing to her n there's no love nor respect.
Chiku: Just curious why would she pay someone for sex while you are in the picture,could it you don't give it to her or rather you don't satisfy her ama to ni roho ya usherati,arafu 7 yrs dating and you have never thought of marrying her? She is very patient.
Salah Aden: The good books says the guilty will run while no one is after them. Go slow, don't sleep with her. Atajitoa mwenyewe.