Photo: Nafula Sharleen/Facebook
For many young Kenyans, moving abroad represents opportunity, stability, and a chance at a better life.
However, beneath the promise of financial growth lies a quieter reality—one that reshapes relationships, expectations, and daily survival in unfamiliar environments.
A Kenyan nurse and entrepreneur based in the United States, Nafula Sharleen, has sparked debate after offering a candid account of life abroad, highlighting how migration can redefine the role of family and friendships.
According to her, proximity often determines support in critical moments.
“Ukifika majuu, mabeshte zako na roommates wanaweza kuwa more important than your own biological family,” she said, explaining that those physically present are often the first responders during emergencies.
She noted that in situations such as illness or accidents, it is not family back in Kenya who can offer immediate help.
“Ukicollapse kwa nyumba, si family yako wa Kenya watakupeleka hospitali—ni roommate wako ama mtu wako wa karibu ndiye ataita 911 akuokolee,” she stated.
Sharleen further described how migrants rely on friends for everyday challenges, from financial emergencies to housing crises.
“Ukikosa food, ukishindwa kulipa rent, ama hata ukipatwa na shida ya ghafla, mabeshte ndio wanakuokolea. Sio familia yako iko mbali,” she said.
Her remarks also highlighted the gradual strain on long-distance relationships. She pointed to time differences and demanding work schedules as key barriers to maintaining close ties.
“Time difference na stress za job zinafanya iwe ngumu kuendelea kuwasiliana kama zamani. Unapata communication inapungua polepole,” she explained.
Over time, she said, migrants often build new social circles abroad while connections back home weaken.
“Unapata unapata mabeshte wapya huku, na wale wa zamani mnaongea tu ukirudi Kenya, kisha communication inapoa tena,” she added.
She also raised concerns about financial expectations from family members, suggesting that some migrants feel viewed primarily as sources of income.
“Ukifika majuu, kuna wakati family inaona kama wewe ni dollar sign. Ukikosa kutuma pesa, communication inapungua,” she said.