In an age where social media feeds are flooded with declarations of love, couples are increasingly judged by how often they showcase their relationships online.
For many, a romantic post, a tagged photo, or a subtle love emoji is seen as proof of commitment. But for some, the decision to stay private is not just personal—it’s strategic.
Anita, a young woman who recently shared her dilemma on the Facebook page Silent Beads, says she has grown tired of displaying her relationships publicly.
“I used to post every boyfriend I dated. Kwame, for instance, was on my WhatsApp status for months, accompanied by love songs. Yet, no matter how much I showcased them, the relationships never lasted,” she explains.
Her experience highlights a modern phenomenon where social media visibility often clashes with personal values.
Anita notes that her friends would tolerate toxic or unfaithful partners for years, yet she chose to end relationships the moment red flags appeared.
“I realized that by constantly posting, I was only showing people how unlucky I was in love,” she says.
The problem, Anita says, began with her current boyfriend. He expects the same level of online recognition she offered previous partners.
“Even if he posts his picture and I react with a love emoji without commenting, he becomes moody,” she shares.
For Anita, social media is not the place to measure the health of her relationship. She believes love should be cultivated privately, with results—like marriage—being the ultimate public announcement.
Anita admits their differing views have created tension, but she remains firm in her approach.
“We’ve been dating for just a month. He has never posted me or commented on my posts yet wants me to put him on billboards,” she says.
Her stance raises an important question for many young couples navigating love in the digital era: is public validation necessary for a relationship to thrive?
While some argue that posting a partner demonstrates commitment, others see it as unnecessary pressure.
Anita’s story resonates with many who prefer offline romance, emphasizing the value of intimacy, discretion, and measured sharing.
“I want to wait for the marriage invitation before posting him,” she concludes, underscoring her belief that love is most meaningful when nurtured quietly and revealed at the right moment.