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A Kenyan woman has sparked an intense online conversation after anonymously sharing a deeply personal confession with popular Facebook influencer Being Wendy, revealing the hidden sexual struggles she faces in her marriage.
In her message, the woman says she battles persistent vaginal dryness, a condition that has made intimacy painful and emotionally draining.
What hurts her most, she explains, is that her husband interprets the dryness as a sign of rejection or lack of attraction.
“He thinks it means I don’t desire him or we’re not in sync. In a way, there is some truth there,” she admits.
The woman contrasts her current experience with her past relationships before marriage, saying her body responded effortlessly then.
She recalls feeling naturally aroused and comfortable during intimacy, without forcing or planning anything.
However, after getting married, things changed dramatically.
“Foreplay barely works for me now. I tried to talk about it, but it always ended badly,” she says, adding that her husband accused her of comparing him to her former partners.
The tension that followed shut down any further attempts at honest communication.
According to her, one major issue is sexual incompatibility. She believes her husband’s rigid, traditional views on sex limit intimacy to male satisfaction, leaving her needs largely ignored.
Acts that genuinely arouse her, such as oral sex, are completely off the table.
“Sex in marriage is about the pleasure of the man. I adjusted myself around that reality,” she writes.
To cope, the woman says she has resorted to secrecy. Before intimacy, she discreetly applies lubricant in the bathroom to avoid pain, careful not to bruise her husband’s ego.
“He likes believing he gets me there on his own,” she confesses.
She also admits to faking orgasms, complete with exaggerated reactions, just to protect his pride and maintain peace in the home.
In private, when her husband is away, she relies on adult toys to meet her needs, describing it as a quiet compromise to keep their “little castle” standing.
For her, the issue is not medical but deeply emotional and relational.
“I know what this body can do. He just doesn’t get me there,” she says.
The confession has resonated with many Kenyan women online, reopening discussions around sexual health, communication, and compatibility in marriage.
Experts often note that vaginal dryness can be influenced by stress, emotional disconnect, lack of adequate arousal, hormonal changes, or unresolved relationship issues.
Sexual health advocates stress that intimacy should be mutual, and that open, non-judgmental communication between partners is key.
Without it, many women suffer in silence, prioritising harmony over their own wellbeing.
As the woman jokingly ends her message with a plea not to be “thrown back to Eastlands,” her humour barely masks a deeper reality shared by many: unspoken sexual dissatisfaction remains one of the most common but least discussed challenges in Kenyan marriages.